I was reminded this morning that I had a blog due this Thursday. *laughs* Well I’m at my sister’s for the holiday weekend and the kids are demolishing the presents in the other room.
As adults we tend to be more subtle (usually) about expressing our disappointment when things don’t turn out like we expected them too. Kids don’t really do that. *grins* When they’re disappointed about something they’ll let you know – often loudly.
For Buddhists, suffering is the disconnect that occurs between our expectations of things and the way things actually are.
The Rolling Stones said much the same thing in their famous song. Though they went one step further, asserting that while you may not get what you want … you get what you need.
Think about that for a minute.
How often do we pay attention when circumstances turn out differently from what we expected? Do we take a lesson from it, or do we waste the moment bemoaning our poor fortune? Do we use it to grow and flourish – like a vegetable garden under a layer of fertilizer – or do we just worry about the smell?
Seek the brilliance in the pieces of shattered dreams.
Find the opportunity in failure.
Gather up your disasters. Use them to fuel your future plans.
Don’t ever give up, or give in.
Living in the present, being fully aware, is about learning to accept things as they are and using the situation you are presented with to its fullest. Letting go of expectations frees you to enjoy and flourish. Go at it.
You might not get what you want, but I bet you’ll get what you need.
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